Emotional stress is a sign that we may be in this state of too much caring. We display our best judgment when we have just the right measure of caring and detachment. In fact, when we are too emotionally attached to a situation, we are said to have lost objectivity. This causes us to make irrational decisions.
What are the signs that we care too much?
For starters, we feel emotionally upset by what is going on. It is a hard thing to stop this feeling. As a mother, I have been emotionally upset greatly by things that my children did or did not do. As a counselor, this scenario plays out
for me in my office many times a week. A child, for their own reasons, behaves in a way that a parent thinks is
not in their best interest. The parent and the child may let their emotions get the better of them. Once voices are raised, rationality has left the building!!
I have made it a practice and encourage others to do self examination whenever strong feelings of any type emerge.
What is underlying these feelings? Are you afraid that your child is engaging in things that are going to bring them harm? Are you feeling neglected by your spouse and therefore more sensitive to a comment? Teasing out these feelings and exposing them to the bright light of day often reduces their ability to impact a person.
If you feel you are forcing a thing, this might also be a sign that you’re caring too much. At times, we feel we see the most direct or best route to an end, and so we try to force the “how” of achieving it. The more you push, the less “flow” can occur. Who can argue that the universe has a serendipitous way of easily making things happen? Often in spite of our so called assistance!
Examine yourself. If you have areas in your life where you feel you are in a state of too much caring, give yourself direction to take a step back. Determine what thoughts or beliefs your fear is drawing you towards. Look around.
Aren’t there an infinite number of other possibilities?